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By | YEET MAGAZINE  Updated 0200 GMT (1000 HKT) May 14, 2022


The symptoms are the same as those of post-traumatic stress: child fleeing, avoiding, worried, insomnia, anxiety... The body speaks: either frozen, rigid, or it cracks.

Home Health  PSYCHOLOGY & MENTAL HEALTH

By  YEET MAGAZINE Posted at 0200 GMT (1000 HKT) on March 18, 2022

“YOU SUCK”, “GET OUT OF HERE”, “NO ONE WANTS YOU HERE”.

Harassment is repeated, continuous violence over a long period of time by one person or group of people towards another. Attacks can be verbal, physical or psychological. In the United States, about one in ten students suffers this kind of violence on a daily basis with sequelae and consequences such as lesions, body marks resulting from fights or dangerous games; or less visible: difficulty concentrating, sleep problems, weakening self-esteem. The harassed child will slowly isolate himself because his classmates do not support him, and the adults are not very present. Guilt and shame can lead either to violent social behavior or to withdrawal and dropping out of school.

BULLYING NO LONGER STOPS AT THE SCHOOL GATES

Cyberbullying is a new and growing phenomenon. The definition of and responsibility for harassment changes: on the Internet, someone can be humiliated quickly, collectively and indirectly (without addressing the victim). This takes place outside of school. Who is then responsible? This new trend dangerously multiplies the possibilities of harassment, but also the devastating impact on the victim, which can lead to suicide.

DEFINITION OF SCHOOL BULLYING

“…when the child is repeatedly exposed to long-term negative actions by one or more students” (Dan Olweus, 1999) .

This violence can be:

  • verbal (insults, mockery, taunts);
  • non-verbal (grimaces, obscene gestures);
  • psychological (spreading rumors, process of isolation);
  • or physical (blows, threats).

THE DYNAMICS OF SCHOOL BULLYING

  • Bullying at school differs from other forms of bullying (professional or family) by the fact that it is (almost) always a group phenomenon.
  • The bully needs witnesses, laughers, spectators.
  • To harm and hurt is of interest only in the eyes of others.
  • Peers can be:
  • Supporters (assist the harasser in his actions)
  • Outsiders (don't say anything)
  • Advocates (intervene and/or support the victim)

OF COURSE, BULLYING IS HARDLY VISIBLE TO ADULTS SINCE IT OCCURS OUTSIDE OF THEIR PRESENCE!

THE 3 CHARACTERISTICS OF SCHOOL BULLYING

  • Repetition: the violence is repeated, reproduced, reiterated over a long period, making the child's life hellish for days and days.
  • The relationship of domination is insistently imposed. There is an abuse of power, a seizure of power by one child over another. The aggression is made by a “stronger” pupil against a “weaker” pupil or one who has difficulty defending himself in this situation; or a group against an isolated student; or even older ones against younger ones.
  • Intent to harm : the “game” which is not initially malicious or hurtful, becomes so when the process takes hold over time. The aggressor has the deliberate intention to harm even if he almost always pretends that it is a "simple game", "it's for fun".

WHO IS BULLIED?

There is no criteria for becoming the target of harassment. Anyone can be targeted because ANYTHING can be used as an excuse.
Anyone can be bullied, for anything and everything, based on any criteria: too smart, too tall, too short, too thin, too fat...

THE RESULTS

School bullying is violence and, like any person who suffers permanent, repeated, suffered and unforeseen violence (therefore uncontrollable) and which threatens his ego (his personal construction) this person is in a state of chronic stress.

Dan Olweus, estimates that a teenager harassed at school is four times more likely to have suicidal thoughts than another young person.

  • Loss of self-esteem
  • School disinvestment and a drop in school results
  • Absenteeism
  • Psychosomatic illnesses
  • Physical damage
  • Depression

HOW DO YOU RECOGNIZE A BULLIED CHILD?

The symptoms are the same as those of post-traumatic stress: child fleeing, avoiding, worried, insomnia, anxiety... The body speaks: either frozen, rigid, or it cracks.

REVIVISCENCES (OR RUMINATION):

  • Repetitive and intrusive memories of the event
  • Nightmares
  • Flashbacks
  • Distress or physiological reactivity upon exposure to stimuli associated with the traumatic event

COGNITIVE AND EMOTIONAL ALTERATIONS:

  • Persistent and exaggerated negative beliefs about oneself, others, or the world
  • Tendency to blame oneself
  • Persistent negative emotions (fear, horror, anger, guilt, shame)
  • Decreased interest in activities
  • Feeling of detachment from others
  • Restrictions of positive emotions

FROM AVOIDANCE:

  • Avoidance of elements (people, places, activities, objects, situations) reminiscent of the situation to flee

HYPERACTIVATION OF THE NERVOUS SYSTEM:

  • Irritability or excessive anger
  • Reckless or self-destructive behavior
  • Hypervigilance
  • bursts
  • Concentration difficulties
  • Sleep difficulties

Children present these signs more or less strongly and some may stand out more than others depending on the personality. We must look at the intensity of a symptom and the concomitance of the symptoms.

Any abrupt change in the teenager's behavior should be questioned by the persons supervising the children.

These symptoms are not those of an adolescent crisis (impossible to contact in the case of harassment).

In the short term, bullying hurts his self-esteem. He could also be demotivated, afraid and no longer want to come to school.

Bullying is a subject that has long remained unmentioned and on which public and governmental attention has gradually been brought upon

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